“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ― Bernard M. Baruch
Are you jealous and envious about others in one way or the other? Have you ever caught yourself doing this? Or maybe you aren’t even aware it’s happening to you.
You have a colleague at work who is the Boss’ favorite and seems to do everything fantastically well, or you may have a classmate who do every assignment excellently and have this high grade exceeding yours, or sometimes you see a friend making a girl laugh or lifting her up in the air and you become jealous – “I wish I could have his social abilities“.
But then you should remind yourself that everyone is different, and that being on the quiet side is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s not like you’re shy, it’s just that you’re not that talkative or extroverted. You are able to make funny comments here and there, but you definitely don’t feel comfortable spanking girls’ asses or lifting them in the air. You just have to love yourself and have good self-esteem. This will let you express yourself in the best way possible without worrying about every minor detail in social interactions.
Others may have something you don’t, but while you are thinking of that, think about what you have and others don’t have as well. You should be proud of being yourself. You don’t have to be like anyone else to be happy. Being yourself, that’s what would make you a happier person. If you constantly try to be someone else, you would never be happy, as you would only be living in their shadow.
For me I found out that it’s not the other person having something, but it’s me thinking that what the other persons has is what I want to have too. And maybe even this person looks at me and want’s to have something I own and am not aware of because it’s seems so normal to me. In my experience many people that seem to live a social, good life still have big problems. You just can’t see these problems. Some people are just really good at faking public appearances, especially that they have all the medium to do that nowadays. You will see very flashy pictures on Facebook and Instagram, but you don’t even know there are lots of unpleasant experiences behind these flashy pictures.
Don’t be surprise that the person you are trying to be like is also trying to be like you. Being different is good and others should want to be like you, not the other way around.